IX Dynamic Attunement 195

A colleague of mine says that every time somebody comes to him boasting of his years of professional experience, he asks whether the experience is truly gained in a growing process during the years or is it merely a one-year experience repeated several times.

3. I follow my own advice and start making endings. The most difficult decisions are those when I have had to stop meeting people who, instead of making me feel good, just take my energy and leave me empty. This has not happened so many times, but often enough to know that the decision was right and necessary.

Collin has kept me awake, not letting me look back, and definitely not letting me take any steps backwards. During every lesson he introduces something new and makes me struggle; I must at the same time make my skill grow and maintain the plateau where I can establish the stuff I already learned and furthermore, release from what is not working. Collin makes me experience the entire doublehelix with its variations simultaneously, packed in one intense moment of learning. Sometimes it is very tiring, but I wouldn’t give a minute away, so rich and rewarding is the process.

The release is a time when intensive coaching or tutoring can be very helpful in order to help the learner to evaluate his action-learning process and elaborate on his learning needs. At this time the process goal number three, seeing new opportunities, should be reached, but it may still remain quite unclear. A coach can help the learner to assess the realistic goals for the next level.